To Call Or Not To Call... That is the question.

Dear LOL,

I am a 30 year old lesbian. My girlfriend and I recently celebrated our 1 year anniversary on Thanksgiving. A few weeks prior I found out she had been chatting with a female she met on facebook for about a month. She told me she deleted her as a friend, but I went through her phone I saw several text messages and calls on her phone. This means that they are still in contact with each other. When I confronted her about it she said that the girl keeps calling her but I don’t know if I completely believe that to be 100% true because I saw the text messages. I want to call the girl and get the truth and find out what is really going on. Should I call her or should I just leave it alone?

HELP!

#1 Spot

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Well #1spot I’m going to give you a lot to eat. Speaking from experience and the observation of friends that have dealt with similar "To call or Not To Call" Dilemma's I must say I have made several phone calls in my days and my reason was I always wanted the truth. However, when seeking the truth a lot of times it is within yourself. Consider this:

      1.       The other woman/jump-off/mistress could genuinely have an “understanding” with  your   girlfriend  which means she will probably say whatever she has been instructed to say. With that being said    you’re not going to get the truth, just a scripted statement.

2.       If the other woman/jump-off/mistress has been told that you are crazy and deranged. She has been most likely advised to not converse with you because an altercation may arise. And if she is scary lol she will not talk with you out of fear.

3.       If you make contact with the other woman/jump-off/mistress and she confirms whatever you have been thinking what are you going to do with that information? If you answer YES, Just leave the relationship now and don’t bother using your daytime minutes.

4.       If she denies being with your girlfriend…. Then what? Because you and your girlfriend are DEFINITELY about to get into it for so many reasons. (that’s another topic of discussion)

...and the most IMPORTANT  the other woman/jump-off/mistress MIGHT NOT EVEN KNOW YOU EXIST!

With that being said let me say this:

Let’s get past the bickering and arguing.  There comes a time in every woman’s life that she receives her “rites of passage” when she shows her ass one time. This might be yours. I first advise you to first re-evaluate your relationship with your girlfriend. Sometimes people make mistakes and get involved in things they shouldn’t and sometimes women are just ass holes. But only you know your woman and what she is capable of. Dig into that gut of yours and tap into your heart. The true answer is within you. NOT within this post. The one you really need to talk to is your girlfriend. Now, Let’s be clear I am NOT saying your girlfriend is or was right for her behavior. I just think that maybe there is a little more that needs to be discussed. Like, what were they talking about in the text and so on…  My phrase for the day: “SOMETIMES THE TRUTH CAN SOUND LIKE A LIE!” So talk with your girlfriend and honey your are not the #1 Spot. You should be the only SPOT!

Now if you want Pumpkin’s advice, call the #@!ch and teller:

1.        She a sideline Hoe!

2.       2^nd place doesn’t get a prize!

3.       If you mess with my girl imma be the one to bring it to you!

And after you do all that write me and tell me how that worked out for you.

Ladies we are so much better than all the drama and trust me… Been there done that! Everyone makes mistakes and remember sometimes the truth sounds like a lie! Only you know your girlfriend. No one can tell you what to do. You have to go with your heart. Pray and ask God to show you and He will. All the drama really isn’t worth it. So to answer your question should you call? Consider the possibilities, pray and follow peace! Cause regardless of the outcome... you have some relationship issues to deal with.

So Fam Bam what’s your advice to #1spot?

1.       Should she call the girl?

2.       Should she leave it alone?

3.       Should she settle the issue with her girlfriend?

4.       Should she just go find her a chick on the side? Lol

5.       Should she get her address and go see the girl face to face?

I’ve cooked.. The table is set… let’s eat!

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Smoochez!!!

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