Baby + Me and Her =3?

Dear L,

I am in a lesbian relationship but I had got pregnant before I met her. We were friends for 5 months before we started dating. Now things are going really good. We're planning to live together after the baby is born. She is going to be a part of the baby's life.

The problem is that she lives in California and I live in Texas. We never met. I really do love her and she loves me. Is it too soon for us to make this commitment? Do you think it is too soon for me to give her a part of my life? Would it be better if I met her before I include her in the life of my unborn son, or should I let love take its course?

                                             Sheila

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Dear Sheila,

Uhhhh …. Honey…. Sweetheart….. (Pause)

Are you serious? Okay, Let me apologize. You are serious and that is why you emailed me. Sheila there is a lot going on in the world today and the internet has been known for sexual predators and people with hidden agendas. Now in all fairness I know people that have found love and bliss on the internet. However, you are about to become a new mother. Your first priority is to your child. Safety and protection being one of many things you must maintain at all cost. I just don’t believe bringing this woman into your personal space is a wise decision at this time. Living with someone is a major decision and has many challenges without a child and ther is a lot of adjusting and adapting that comes with living with someone. You really don’t know how this person interacts in a up close and personal environment.

I believe that you have missed out on one of the key elements of dating that is very crucial in all relationships. That key element is seeing how that person interacts with other people, including the most important person YOU! You don’t know this person’s habits, does she have a temper? Too often we see on television woman getting involved in relationships and leaving their kids with the mate and abuse has transpired against the child.

Consider discussing her relocating to Texas and finding her own residence. Maybe if you have a friend that needs a roommate and she can stay there. You can then begin to develop an up close and personal relationship and then grow into a relationship that has the two of you living in the same household.

Congrats on your blessing of joy and thanks  for reading L.O.L

The floor is open FAM BAM what do you think she should do?

1.       Let her move in?

2.       Don’t let her move in?

3.       Have

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Smoochez!!!